Why didn’t Shi Xiangyun like Lin Daiyu at first？ Personality disagreement is just appearance.

Shi Xiangyun is the nephew and granddaughter of Jia Mu. Xiangyun lost her parents in infancy and grew up with her uncle and aunt. Grandmother Jia has always loved her daughter, and she loves to be lively. Seeing that Shi Xiangyun’s life experience is poor, but her temperament is the most lively and frank, she sent someone to the historian to pick her up from time to time. Shi Xiangyun’s treatment in Jia’s house is no different from that of other ladies.

Shi Xiangyun is at home in Jiafu, not only living a carefree life, but also playing well with other sisters. Especially with Jia Baoyu, they are as good as brothers and sisters, and Shi Xiangyun is naturally more reluctant to leave Jia Fu. Compared with historians, the Jia family is really like heaven.

Later, Lin Daiyu, the granddaughter of Jia’s family, entered the house, and Jia felt sorry for her. She loved and cared for her much more than Jia’s Sanchun, except Jia Baoyu. Among this group of grandchildren, Baoyu and Daiyu are the ones that Grandmother Jia values most and can’t let go.

They are also relatives of the Jia family, but Shi Xiangyun and Lin Daiyu don’t get along very well. Although Shi Xiangyun doesn’t live in Jia’s house often, there will always be some minor frictions and even conflicts with Daiyu. Jia Baoyu, caught in the middle, was extremely anxious. He helped neither side, nor did he help.

Actually, it’s no big deal. Many people in Jiafu think that Lin Daiyu is stingy, but Lin Daiyu gets along well with other sisters and is not annoying. Even if she was at odds with Shi Xiangyun, Lin Daiyu didn’t really dispute with Shi Xiangyun. Shi Xiangyun, who is careless and boyish, is not very friendly to Lin Daiyu, and even a little against Lin Daiyu.

It is said that Shi Xiangyun belongs to that heartless person, who is outspoken and doesn’t care about anything. She can blurt out in public that the actress Ling Guan looks like Lin Daiyu and make everyone laugh. At this time, Jia Baoyu, who is smart, rushed to give Xiangyun a wink, but it was counterproductive. Lin Daiyu was really angry when she saw it all.

Jia Baoyu flattered both sides, but both of them offended. Shi Xiangyun talked about Lin Daiyu, but she got angry. First, she was angry with Daiyu’s pettiness. Second, she was angry with Baoyu for defending her. But Lin Daiyu was angry because of Jia Baoyu, who didn’t understand her at all and regarded her as a narrow-minded person! However, in any case, Shi Xiangyun said in public that Lin Daiyu was like a performer. Is this really appropriate?

If Shi Xiangyun is really a thick line, it is understandable to forget for a moment and spill the beans. However, when Shi Xiangyun and Lin Daiyu went to Yi Hong Yuan to find xiren, they found that Xue Baochai was sitting next to Jia Baoyu who was taking a nap, and when she embroidered a Chinese-style chest covering for him, Lin Daiyu sipped her mouth and kept smiling. Shi Xiangyun was smiling, but suddenly stopped and pulled Lin Daiyu away. Look, Shi Xiangyun is also very careful, just the target of scoring.

Shi Xiangyun doesn’t like Lin Daiyu. Everyone can see that, in addition to ignoring Lin Daiyu’s feelings, Shi Xiangyun also said that Lin Daiyu was not good in front of Jia Baoyu and gossiped about Lin Daiyu with the maid who had served him. Moreover, Shi Xiangyun also highly praised Xue Baochai, and even said that if she had a sister like Baochai, it would be a good thing to lose her parents.

There is a reason why Shi Xiangyun doesn’t like it, even being unfriendly to Lin Daiyu.

Before, I thought it was because of my personality. Shi Xiangyun’s personality is the opposite of Lin Daiyu’s, and they can be said to be incompatible. Shi Xiangyun is a big, spontaneous person, but Lin Daiyu is quiet, full of illness and sorrow, crying in the wind. In the view of Shi Xiangyun, who is healthy and bright, Lin Daiyu is a bit melodramatic. She can’t understand her, so she can’t like her.

Later, I felt that this was nothing at all. The so-called personality incompatibility was often just an excuse. How can there be just the right personality in the world? Different personalities can complement each other and become good friends. And later, Shi Xiangyun and Lin Daiyu got closer and closer, but they became much closer, and Shi Xiangyun no longer missed Xue Baochai. Besides, Shi Xiangyun and Lin Daiyu are close in life, and they have no parents. It is reasonable to say that it should be easier to understand each other!

In fact, the deeper reason for Shi Xiangyun’s attitude towards Lin Daiyu, as well as praising Chai and restraining Dai, lies in her insecurity and jealousy of Lin Daiyu.

Yes, Shi Xiangyun, who seems carefree and doesn’t remember anything, is actually just an insecure child. Before the arrival of Lin Daiyu, Shi Xiangyun was the darling of the Jia family. The Jia family took special care of her. Previously, she specially sent the most gentle and meticulous attacker to serve her, so that Shi Xiangyun enjoyed meticulous care.

The relationship between Shi Xiangyun and Jia Baoyu is also the best. Both of them love to play, and their age is similar. Jia Baoyu likes this clingy and happy sister very much. Shi Xiangyun is also reluctant to part with this girl’s "love brother". With Jia Baoyu’s company, Shi Xiangyun’s time in Jiafu is even better and happier.

However, with the arrival of Lin Daiyu, Shi Xiangyun’s position was passively shaken. After Daiyu entered the government, even Sanchun and other serious granddaughters fell behind, not to mention Shi Xiangyun, a grand niece. Besides, Shi Xiangyun isn’t under the grandmother’s nose every day. When the grandmother is full of Baoyu and Daiyu, the love that can be given to Shi Xiangyun is less and less.

Shi Xiangyun will be very sensitive to this change when he goes to Jiafu again. She is not an idiot. xiren has a different attitude towards her before and after, and she is pregnant with her grandson. She looked at the grandmother’s extraordinary love for Daiyu, which was all right. What made Shi Xiangyun even more entangled was that Jia Baoyu, the best playmate, was also taken away by Lin Daiyu! In the past, she was Jia Baoyu’s closest sister, but now, she can only stand aside. Jia Baoyu defended Lin Daiyu everywhere, although he was also good to Xiangyun, but once he had a comparison, Shi Xiangyun’s psychology naturally could not be balanced.

Therefore, Shi Xiangyun’s attitude towards Lin Daiyu lies not in what Lin Daiyu did, but more in his jealousy and dissatisfaction with Lin Daiyu, even if this dissatisfaction is only subconscious. Shi Xiangyun felt that it was Lin Daiyu who robbed something that belonged to her. Therefore, Shi Xiangyun always looks at Lin Daiyu with colored glasses and thinks that Lin Daiyu is not good either. I often use a sour tone to criticize Lin Daiyu in front of Jia Baoyu.

However, Xue Baochai’s smoothness and elder sister’s care filled the void in Shi Xiangyun’s heart, and she felt that she was valued and cared for. The relationship between Xue Baochai and Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu is just so-so. Shi Xiangyun tried to get close to Xue Baochai, one as gratitude, and the other as a small revenge. Didn’t Jia Baoyu dislike Xue Baochai? I insist on saying that Sister Bao is good! Isn’t your sister Lin good? But in my opinion, even a fraction of Sister Bao can’t compare with it!

Of course, Shi Xiangyun’s psychology is normal and understandable. For a growing little girl, how can she be calm when a homosexual who is better and more popular than herself suddenly leaves her company and love? So sometimes she can’t avoid spikes.

Shi Xiangyun and Lin Daiyu are not bitter rivals, and they can also play together. Their relationship is closer to that of girls in reality. Like Xue Baochai, she is kind to everyone and never loses her temper, which is somewhat untrue. Shi Xiangyun had some opinions and misunderstandings about Lin Daiyu, but with the growth of age, two people gradually approached, but they got along more and more harmoniously, and even later, they could talk about their worries together.

At this time, Shi Xiangyun has become much more mature. She can see more clearly what is going on between people, and also understand that everyone’s fate is different. She will no longer be angry with Lin Daiyu because of a little thing, nor will she run to Jia Baoyu and say that Lin Daiyu is not right. The impulsive behavior of those years is both naive and cute, and Lin Daiyu has never disputed with her. How can Shi Xiangyun not know that he has seen people for a long time? One person’s attitude towards another person will not be static!

(Author A Wuyuan read less about the Red Chamber)